Recycling dresses and discipline

We have been having problem with Bella at during meal times and bed times for a while but when we heard she was staring at daycare too and making things not so fun for the other kids at meal time then we knew we really had to do something. It was not easy because you do feel like the strictest and meanest parent in the world but it needed to be done. We started during the weekend and boy did we have a lot of crying (Bella mostley). When we're eating if she was not we encourage her to do so but if she was not done by the time we were AND was not showing signs of eating we left and she had to stay by her self. Boy was she unhappy but after 2 times of us leaving she is now eating much better, but not perfect.

At bed time we had the problem that she would not go to sleep but get out of bed over and over again, This would result in her being very sleepy and cranky the next day. So we started telling her that we would remove her music which she listens to at night time if she got out and if she still got up we would close the door. Two nights it took of us taking these things away and her crying and screaming but now she goes to bed very easy and sleeps about 9-10 hours a night a again. Phew!!! Our question is; when does it get easier?

On a lighter note, Bella loves her dresses and she found a dress she wore last year for our friend Susan's wedding and now loves playing around in that and her fancy shoes she got for her birthday.